Etiquette – Wedding

At Tip Top Tux, we know how important it is to look your best on your special day, whether it be your wedding or your prom. Making sure you are dressed your best is our business and we understand that you want your wedding to be as perfect as you’ve always imagined. (At least as perfect as your bride has always imagined!)

Compared to the challenge women have of finding the dress of their dreams out of countless options, men have it easy. The men just have to know their size, occasion, and personal preferences. For a woman, it is the daunting challenge of finding the picture-perfect, figure-flattering, hopefully affordably-priced, fantasy-inspired gown amongst a seemingly never-ending range of possibilities. For the groom it is usually a lot less fuss and is as simple as getting measured and properly matching your formal wear to the occasion and your personal style — and, of course, remembering to buy new, black socks!

Men’s formal wear consists of several basic, styling essentials including jacket, pants, shirt, tie, and vest or cummerbund. However, knowing which version of these basics matches what occasion is important. The following formal wear etiquette guide will help you in choosing the perfect attire for your special day. Just match up your event (Semi-Formal vs. Formal), setting (Daytime vs. Evening) and style (Traditional vs. Contemporary) to find the perfect attire for your event!

Who pays for what? Below is a breakdown of the traditional rules of who is in charge of paying for each item. However, these rules can always be broken.

Engagement Party
If there is more than one engagement party, the bride’s family hosts the first one.
If there is only one engagement party either family can host the party.

Rehearsal Dinner
The rehearsal dinner is your family’s time to shine. This is a dinner hosted by the groom’s family the night before the wedding. It usually follows a run-through of the ceremony so no one is confused on the big day. It can be held in a fancy restaurant or in a loved one’s backyard. This dinner usually includes the immediate families of the bride and groom, their wedding party and respective dates, the officiant and significant other (if applicable) as well as out-of-town guests that have traveled far to be a part of your special day. This dinner is traditionally the time for toasts, a chance for all of your attendants to get up and say a few words or share a few embarrassing stories. It is also the time to give your attendants and your parents their gifts and express your thank you’s.

Shower/Bachelorette Party
The bridesmaids and maid of honor host the shower and bachelorette party.

Bachelor Party
The best man, groomsmen and ushers host the bachelor party.

Rings
The bride and her family pay for the groom’s ring.
The groom and his family pay for both of the bride’s rings- the engagement ring and accompanying wedding band.

Flowers
The bride and her family pay for all of the flowers in the church and at the reception, as well as the bouquets for the bridesmaids and flower girls.
The groom and his family pay for the bride’s bouquet, the boutonnieres for the men as well as the corsages for the mothers and grandmothers.

Photography
The bride and her family pay for all wedding photography and video, including engagement pictures.

Invitations, Save the Dates & Announcements
The bride and her family pay for all of the invitations, announcements, save the dates, and programs.

Ceremony
The bride and her family pay for the church or synagogue as well as the organist and anyone else involved at the church.
The groom and his family pay for the officiant’s fee as well as the marriage license. Make sure that the best man has the officiant’s fee in his pocket to pay him after the ceremony concludes.

Reception
The bride and her family pay for the entire reception, including all food, drink, decorations and music.

Transportation
The bride and her family are responsible for all of the transportation to and from the ceremony and reception.

Honeymoon
While your bride will tackle most of the wedding plans, it is your job to plan what you look forward to the most, several days of relaxation and bliss, aka the honeymoon. (Don’t forget to book the airline tickets in the bride’s maiden name as her new last name will not yet be on any official documents.)

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